Saanams Mind

One of the biggest prejudices that exist in our world, across countries, cultures and religions, is that of being judged by your weight. Few days ago, was having a conversation with a close friend who was telling me about a comment made at her office. Someone in her office said something about why women love men and ended with just one reason for why men love women… the person said because they are HOT…so true. Men do love women because they are hot…and only if they are HOT. Else it’s all just a compromise. And trust me I am not being bitter and its not that I have not met men who don’t fall in love with the not so thin and not so hot women, but then like I always say – Exceptions are not examples.

Have you ever been guilty of judging someone by his or her weight? Have you ever preferred a person who had an hour glass figures or the perfect V-shape built, over someone who totally blew you away with his or her personality, honesty, genuineness, caring attitude and great sense of humor. But you ignored them for someone who looked better; despite the fact that the not so hot one was the best PERSON you ever met?

Its funny how it applies more to women…I have met so many over weight as well as under weight men who are nowhere close to being the perfect hunks, but when it comes to the women they want, she should be the perfect face with the perfect body. Doesn’t matter how they look and what they weigh! It’s all about the women they want.

I have not been able to understand till date why this is such a big issue and why someone “not so thin” is looked “down” upon, sometimes even by their very own friends. And it’s said with such a sneer as if it’s the biggest sin one could commit and so I should go kill myself for the shame of my pants being too tight.

I guess in today’s age, time is also an issue. There are too many options and too many people to look at and not enough time to REALLY know them. Therefore in the channel surfing way of life today, if you don’t like the look of someone, you switch the channel and move away.

And to all the girls and boys, who really do suffer from a low self-esteem because of this prejudice, let me tell you, you yourself are prejudiced about it and you are equally to be blamed. If you are a person who lets others make you feel any lesser because of your weigh, if someone makes you feel like you have to be overly thin and look like a super model and that looking and living like a real person is a shameful condition, then it’s a prejudice you have against yourself.

And to all those so called friends who say “you will look great if you would lose a few pounds” or something like “hey don’t worry, you will find someone someday”, well you are prejudiced too…you may be the best friend but that doesn’t change it someone’s views about your prejudice against them. To them I say…”Don’t worry, I’m sure someone will come along who’ll be glad to put up with your hateful personality for a chance to get a hold of your body. If it hasn’t aged or gained any weight, that is!”

One should be proud of themselves instead of letting other’s hateful comments put them down. I’ve always believed that I am who I am, if you like it, good for you and if you don’t, good for me. I’m not the kind to take other’s comment so seriously about the way I look or the way I should look. If I’m comfortable in my own skin, then that’s all that matters.

Be yourself and you’ll always attract more people than being someone fake with a hot body. What counts is yourself inside, not the way you look or how much you weigh. One should never judge a book by its cover, isn’t that what we’re always told?

A very beautiful and lovely friend said something very beautiful today and I wanted to add that here for you all to think about, “You should take pride in who you are so why does prejudice come in the way of pride?” A very thoughtful thought, something I think we should all think about. Why do we let people get to us even when we claim to be strong? What makes us want to react to them?

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