Was reading an article which spoke about working and making an effort to be happy.
Well humans are a gifted species blessed with superior intelligence, ability to emote communicate and feel. So we owe it to ourselves to make ourselves happy. The article also spoke about a few points that can help you stay happy and they are actually simple to follow.
The first thing to do is to value yourself as a human and respecting the person you are., this means you take time to do something for yourself. It does not mean being selfish or selfless, but striking a balance between the two. It also involves learning to be a little assertive and not get aggressive about it, learning to say no when you feel you are being walked all over.
Life comes with so many ups and downs we have to garner courage to accept life for what it is .When we do face up to it, confidence in facing whatever comes our way comes. Mistakes happen and we should just shrug them off as just that, mistakes to learn from and move on. Own up to faults as that makes you courageous and it also teaches you by trial and error.
Willpower is important as it gives u tensile strength to go through anything be it life or devious people. Willpower pushes you past guilt with determination and helps keep your attitude happy, light hearted and get beyond remorse.
Acceptance of life being a journey of ups and downs and that when the downs are done with the only way is up. This helps keep mind free and keeps one happy.
I feel most of us mess our lives being sentimental when we need to be sensible and practical. So we tend to blame everything and everyone else for the downfalls in life, well the step forward would be to detach actions from reactions and take responsibility for feeling the way you do. This would make one I guess logical, realistic and objective.
Often we flog ourselves for the mistakes we commit. Its ok to learn from them but mulling over them for too long ,often makes us lose out on being happy. Reliving mistakes just upset and trouble us thus hindering us being happy.
Staying optimistic is another way of staying happy. Believing in the divine helps us stay happy. Bursting into tears or giving up is not what helps. Always look at the positive side of things then it becomes easier to laugh.
Stop worrying. All problems look so much bigger and tougher to handle when you worry about the ‘what if’s. Well we cross the bridge when it happens. Anticipating trouble creates a fear which makes it difficult for one to stay happy. All we can do is put in our 100% effort and leave the rest to God. After that even if the results are not up to your expectations you will be happy for putting in your best.
Cherish your blessings .Always keep happy memories and thoughts in your mind instead of hanging on to sad memories. Look around and realize you are far more blessed than most others around you.
Surround yourself with things that make you happy. Maybe loved ones photographs where you can see it….maybe a painting or a work of art that makes you smile.Maybe your kids work of art.
Keep away from things or people who hurt you. For example when sad if you listen to a sad song or maybe watch a sad movie you will aggravate the sad feelings. So do the opposite and find ways of chasing away the blues.
Don’t feel bad about providing yourself with a comfortable life if you can afford it. Sometimes indulging in keeping yourself in comfort gives you a sense of wellbeing. There is no point in always sacrificing and being uncomfortable instead of being as comfortable as the others.
Money does give one a sense of security. So make sure you save enough and to spend wisely. It is true money is not everything but it is an important aspect of life.
Most part of our sadness is when we have anxiety and nervousness. One should remove these from ones mind to avoid continual worry. Petty cribbing does not help any either. Some problems are not ones we can solve, so it is easier to accept them as a part of life and endure the pain it brings.
Place a lot of importance on relationships which are harmonious rather than those that cause you pain. It absolutely is not worth sweating over people who evoke negative feelings in you .Instead invest energy on people who make you feel good and there is understanding with.
One has to hang on to positivity and let go of issues that are beyond our control. There is a greater power which controls everything and constant thinking of trouble creates a negative outlook that blocks happiness from coming to you.
The keyword here would be auto suggestion. Keep talking about how happy you are instead of going on n on about the cribs in life. When we do that we not only automatically focus on happy moments but learn to attract more happiness towards ourselves.
The last thing is to realize that you have the key to your own happiness. There are people who make you feel guilty for feeling happy but the fact is, when you are happy everything around brightens up. People around you get happier and in all it gets easier to deal with every hurdle in life.
Life is a big joke and one never knows what is going to happen to it next. So it would help a lot if you took life lightly and enjoy the ride as it comes .Stay happy, its well within our grasp 
November 8th, 2008 at 6:47 pm
I also think having a strong network of family and friends around you makes working through the hard days even easier —
and makes celebrating life’s great moments that much more special.
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November 10th, 2008 at 6:33 pm
I think just being thankful for whatever we’re blessed with can make a person so much happier because often I’ve seen people cribbing about what they don’t have and making themselves sad over it. Looking at the positive side of it and just being able to smile is what can make a day so much easier.
Of course, having your loved ones support is a big part of getting through some of the tough days but often a day gets ruined because of those loved ones, so its better to hold the key to your happiness to yourself, not to let them get to you in a way that you start to think different about yourself. Life has too much to offer to let little things ruin everything.
It seems money is such a bigger issue for people these days but as you said, its better to save it for future and at the moment, spend it wisely because none knows what tomorrow is going to bring for us so just going out to blow the money you have now definitely isn’t a wise thing to do. Money isn’t going to buy you lifetime of happiness but it definitely gives you security for the moment and gives you the things that are impossible to live without but it shouldn’t become your life. It doesn’t buy love or relationships.
I’m not sure if I made any sense but I think we all have good days and bad days but giving someone the right to make every day a ‘bad’ day for you isn’t going to help so we have to take control of our life in our own hands.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts. It definitely helps me look at things a bit more clearly. Love you lots di. Huggs