“Real Love is a conscious choice made with your head, confirmed by your heart and executed by your person. Every act of love is an act of choice.”
Read this in the ‘Signature’ part of an email I got. I think I disagree with this statement.
Every act of choice is an act of love otherwise we would not choose in the first place. I choose something because I love it and without love I would never choose something. If we choose something which we don’t love, it would not be termed as choice it’s something which is forced. If you choose something because time/situation demands it, then again it’s not a choice; it’s a settlement or an agreement
When you choose something when time demands it, it’s a sort of an agreement you go into and not a choice, you settle for something rather choose it. If we have too many agreements/settlements in our life, it would mean that you are giving into lot of demands, and then it means it’s time to look back.
If we do not have any option then go with it…but then maybe I would not call it a choice . Well I would call it Life. I’ve always believed we don’t get to choose everything in life, and sometimes it works out for the good…so when it really gives us a choice then why not go and make the best use of it, go and choose the things we love? What if we have nothing which we love in front of us, then we must go in search of it, or may be hold on a little we never know what we love. I mean I think no one really knows until one actually feels it.
What if we really don’t have time to find what we love? Maybe that’s the thing we are doing wrong, always thinking about time, maybe we should let time do its work, and us ours.
What if I neither have faith in myself or on time? I think we ought to, faith is the basis of life forms, faith on anything we consider…if nothing then just believe in faith, anything you trust, anyone you want to trust.
What if you do not get a sense of trust in things we see; does trust lead to compromise? I guess then we should not see, and trust does not lead to compromise, rather it opens you up, it opens you up for the world and the world includes us.
What if we wonder will the world be bothered whether I am opening up or not? What if they want me in closed? I guess world wants us to open up and loves it that way.
You know, when we close the doors it’s our rooms which end up darker and not the world.
Maybe I’m not making any sense or maybe I’m trying to understand the feelings I’m going through at the moment. Life…it truly knows how to bring us to a point where it’s up to us as humans to decide what we want.
February 4th, 2009 at 4:47 pm
How true Anam, Life is a sum total of the choices we make whether its right or wrong or where we go from here its all about choices in life
February 20th, 2009 at 10:02 am
Very well written. Came across your blog. Mashallah you write well. Lots of emotion. Keep up the good work.
p.s. I liked the line…You know, when we close the doors it’s our rooms which end up darker and not the world.