Disappointments in life….they come in many ways. You aspire to do something it doesn’t happen, you look forward to something it doesn’t work out, or you are disappointed in people when you keep them a little high in your esteem and they fall in your eyes or when you feel let down by them. Every human being goes through them, but for me the last instance, the disappointment in people is what hits me the strongest .
What is disappointment? The world we are a part of is far from perfect and disappointments are easy to recognize. A hollow helpless feeling inside .A feeling of betrayal, of being let down, of breaching trust. A failure to fulfill a promise or an expectation .Hurt, disbelief also accompany the feeling of disappointment & is directly proportionate to the strength of the relationship you have with that person.
That to me is what I call the biggest disappointment. When its circumstances you can somehow reassure yourself that you have no control over it but when it is a person, specially someone you care for or look up to, someone who you hold high in your mind, does things that disappoint you I guess the hurt, the hollow feeling is more.the hurt more and the feeling of being let down even more.
Why feel disappointed in someone? Well I guess because in the course of time, in a relationship one builds a trust, an image, a feeling about someone and when they do something that violates these things you feel let down , a sense of a breach of confidence in the person because their actions is not what you expect of them .
So how does one deal with disappoinments . Some withdraw, some give up and each one does it in their own way. Hmmm maybe they are there to teach you something. No matter how hard we try disappointments in life happen, so do grief and pain. But we have to accept these come just so we can appreciate joys and happiness.
Most often we look at others actions as being the reason for our disappointments it goes inward or maybe one looks at ones ones one feelings and actions and why it happened. If one looks within then one shouldlook at the others actions.
Look at disappoinments as challenges to be met with. Analyse, learn and move on. Talk to friends about it and when you look at others problems or issues you feel you are not alone so it helps cope in a way. Do not have expectations from anyone. You are bound to be disappointed.
Be patient and that gives you the strength to go over disappointments.
“When dealing with disappointments, take a step back from the original, issue stand back and ask yourself what do I want from this and what really is the solution? Disappointments are not meant to hurt you but are there to help one grow and to remind one of their priorities.”
