Saanams Mind

All of us acknowledge that there are domestic scenes where physical abuse of a spouse is seen . But how many of us acknowledge the presence of emotional abuse in a relationship. Maybe less has been spoken about it, or maybe its not as evident with the damages as physical abuse, but it is a reality.

When one cannot pinpoint why the relationship is going wrong and its difficult to express it, one partner controls the other completely, one partner does not value the thoughts or feelings of the other, intimidates and threatens the other, accuses the other of affairs, feels jealous of the partner talking to anybody,nothing one does seems good enough, one gets mixed signals, as if all that behaviour is just becoz he/she loves you,  one has to account for every moment, account for every penny spent, children are used to make one feel guilty and  the blame is all on the person if any thing goes wrong. Even the choice of friends is constantly ridiculed and commented on. These are a few things one sees in an emotional abusive relationship.

The affected person is always on egg shells, careful of annoying the partner, makes excuses for the partners behaviour,  feels that they cannot make decisions on their own, is constantly on the edge, anxious and depressed too, is unable to keep in touch with friends and in the long run loses self confidence as the partner’ s behaviour is constantly eating into their self image.

This kind of an abuse is as bad if not worse than physical abuse as its damaging as well and eats more into ones psyche. The people involved in such relations would do themselves good if they recognised what they are involved in and took appropriate steps to protect themselves and stop themselves from being victims by seeking support & help and taking charge of their lives.

Would appreciate it if you have anything more to add on this situation.

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