Saanams Mind

Woke up to a beautiful day, my mood upbeat and heart light Sometimes I just wonder at myself and why I slip into my morbid moods but the lessons I learn from them are well worth it I guess The sun shines bright out side and am feeling disgustingly positive and happy in my heart (yea yea dil dance maare ) . So many possibilities in life, so much to do and so much to look forward to. Nothing can drag me down anymore yesssss NOTHING n am happy that  I decided to let it be that way

I was  watching this man , a pompous, arrogant , ‘am so full of myself so I throw my weight around kind of a person ‘and just wondered what prompted him to be such a attention seeker and came to the conclusion it was emotional insecurity. The feeling of am not at all worthy of anything and have nothing to add value to so he was pretending to be the opposite so as to get people to notice.Emotional insecurity develops in childhood and  has serious repercussions as one grows up to be an adult. With a low self image these people can either withdraw into themselves and isolate themselves or may get aggressive and arrogant. Either ways it may result in irrational behaviour.

Sometimes we go through Insecurities in our relationships prompting us to behave in a manner most unlikely of us. Jealousy, nagging thoughts about the other, a feeling of helplessness when you feel you can’t sort your problems, feelings of inadequacy of feeling that you are no good for the other person , a sense of not fitting in, all these make one nervous and then a wierd you arises out of a sense of  fear because you feel you can’t handle things. A defense mechanism automatically developed to help cope with the situation.

There are many reasons one may be insecure, a difficult childhood, a personal loss, a failed relationship or just some traumatic experience that makes a person lose that faith in themselves .They have a poorly developed sense of  self concept  that makes the have no belief in themselves, their goodness and strengths…they may not have had proper guidance nor had enough encouragement to booster thier confidence and abilities.They always may have been compared to some achievers or better performers all their lives.

To deal with it one has to accept that one is insecure , have a willingness to change it within themselves, be ready to take risks in order to overcome it, become vulnerable and open themselves to others , again risking hurt.Look at problems rationally , learn assertiveness so as to command respect,try reaching small goals so as to achieve success,break the self doubts they have regarding their capabilities. Letting go of all the baggage that gives them self doubts, all old fears and hurts . Open themselves to the possibility of success and happiness and  reward themselves whenever they succeed however small those successes may be

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