When I speak about love here, am not talking just about the romantic kind of love but love that exists in every relationship. A person loves you because they love you… no excuses , no conditions…its there and if there is love then it is there anyway , there is no need to wait or try to win that love. No explanations are necessary as explanations cannot make sense of love anyway. If one has this powerful burning need to be loved, or there is a powerful reason to be loved, then that love is very precarious and can easily disappear.
If people tell you they love you because of this, that and attach conditions then that is conditional love that will disappear when the conditions are not met. The sad truth is these people who proclaim to love you don’t really do so even when their expectations or conditions are met because they have a whole new set of rules and conditions for you to follow. This is more about control issues than love. So this is not actually love , its more one wanting a control over another’s life and sadly this kind of love doesn’t last nor is satisfying as once the conditions are met it is often found that a new set of conditions appear.
If one feels love is going to rescue them, that is a clingy kind of love and is dissatisfying as well. They cling so much to the one they love, initially the loved one may feel secure but in time it gets smothering and difficult to handle. They then begin to reject that love. On the other side, the one who rescues you again begins to control you.You may start disliking yourself for being weak and needy.
The only kind of love that I feel is real is the one that comes without conditions. One that just exists for itself, no reasons, no explanations no conditions no excuses…it just is. This love loves you for what you are, the way you do things, your personality, sense of humor, or just because of the way you make them feel good about themselves. This love is the ‘one’ one has to be true to because this person mirrors you the best. There are no tests for acceptance, there is no search for anything more, they are just being themselves and are grateful for it.
What would your thoughts be on this?
December 18th, 2009 at 6:40 am
Hey Deepa , Thanx and I sure enjoy the feedback I get from you
Hope to see you often here 
December 18th, 2009 at 3:50 am
I am speechless. very comforting to read and actually disappointed as the article came to an end. Looking foward to next post.
December 18th, 2009 at 8:20 am
A lifetime, a few breaths, a few friends, a many foes, yet all in all one love above all. We may take the word causally, as there a zillion around to whom we owe the expression, the faith of our love. First, undoubtedly has to be God, we love Him, we owe Him life, a few breaths, friends and happenings…
Love for certain has a 90 degrees, a 180, 270 and a 360. As the angle increases so does the meaning and intensity of the whole notion. Well I am an amateur at this, but the whole deal is simple and sweet. Love for one’s family is inclined at 90 degrees.
The 180 degrees is a bit more complicated than the one discussed. It focuses on more than just the caring and inclination attitude. This one goes out to the peers and friends who we die without. They feed our souls, they know us better than the people whom we live with.
The first and foremost love that I mentioned is for God no doubt and is inclined at 270 degrees, a bit more deeper than family and friends.
Now! The grand finale… 360 degrees. The position goes to the letter “S”. Don’t fret cuz your spouse is exactly the person with whom lies the prestigious love. The love which no one has. God has bestowed them such that even you can’t help it.
am i going insane here
too much reflection isnt it!
December 18th, 2009 at 10:40 am
I just wish people love for the sake of love not for anything else… just pure unconditional love…huggss saanj awesome writing.
December 18th, 2009 at 11:13 am
Wonderfully said and well expressed AD had me think on a different plane altogether. Huggs thank you for the wonderful explanation you have given.God bless!
December 18th, 2009 at 11:15 am
Thank you Aarzoo sad that most loo n search for conditions because thats the only way they know how.
December 18th, 2009 at 2:45 pm
I so agree with it..But how many of us do the same? I mean if we love somebody, there are some kind of strings attached no matter what. I am not saying unconditional love doesnt exist. It does, but along with it there are some strings attached as well. And its a fact and in this practical world, lot of us atleast some kind of love or response back from the other side too. How many of us can say that I love this person unconditionally and not say anything or expect anything from the other person. If the other person is providing you with everything that you felt you would have dreamt of then I am sure you arent expecting but are we fair by saying that none of our love is bound with any expectations?
I love my husband to death and I dont need anything from him but his care and love too, but isnt that expecting back again?. Yes, i am blessed to have a husband who till date has only put me in priority and nothing else in his life. Its quite a debatable subject. None of us in this world live without any expectations, then be it any kind of relationship. And I feel thats the ultimate truth. Love you Saanj di. God bless you.
December 18th, 2009 at 2:57 pm
Good points to raise shweets and something to think about …I have written more on the line of thought that love either is there or it just isnt… it cannot be forced from someone nor can it happen just because you fulfill certain conditions but as you mentioned there are certain unseen ties that binds love as well.