When you look for the good in others, you discover the best in yourself. – Martin Walsh
This quote rings so true. Watching the conversation going around at a family function, I noticed that the ones who were self assured and quietly confident about themselves had a lot of good to see and speak about in others , while those who seemed to have issues in themselves would comment something bad either on the physical appearance of others or take pleasure in passing some unsavoury remark on someone.
It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others. – Sidney J. Harris
A positive self image always goes a long way in determining how you view the world, for our way of looking at people and determining who they are , comes from what we know about ourselves. For example a person who lies will never believe another person because he assumes everyone is lying just like him. A person who thinks good about the others always expects others to see that in them as well, because they do not know any other way.
Accepting who you are goes a long way in helping build a positive self image. If you don’t accept yourself the way you are, warts and all, you become oversensitive to rejection from others, you lose faith in yourself everytime an old weakness surfaces, you waste time seeking for love to make you complete. Instead of looking and seeking the best within yourself you look to compete with others, material things seem to matter a lot as they give you a sense of achievement. When there is no acceptance of yourself , you cling to your past, you don’t look forward to your future as you are afraid of what it may bring forth about yourself. When you don’t accept yourself you cant face the truth and hide behind lies. Accepting that you are not perfect helps in accepting and forgiving yourself for your mistakes.
When you accept yourself you accept the world as it is . Do you accept yourself as you are, weakness, flaws n all? What do you think …when someone judges someone else are they judging themselves?
December 24th, 2009 at 3:55 am
If I judge someone, its only to gain knowledge and in no way to plaster an image over their personality or mine. To give a name to their's or my personality, nope.
And no one can actually judge some one to judge themselves because to judge yourself you need to have the knowledge of what is right and what is wrong and when you are judging someone else, you are already using that knowledge, meaning you have ALREADY judged yourself. And if you don't have the right knowledge you should not judge or you will end up hurting someone.
December 24th, 2009 at 3:59 am
And one should change when change is needed as we are not prefect but keep striving for it. So one shouldn't actually accept one's self as it is or the world for that matter.
December 24th, 2009 at 6:41 am
What an excellent post. I love both of the quotes you've used. They are definitely so true and something every one of us should try to comprehend because a lot of us are fast to start judging other people without looking into the mirror ourselves. I have never judged a person because I know I wouldn't want to be judged by people who know nothing about me. If that's how I feel about myself, then I think everyone should be treated the same way. One always needs to put themselves in other peoples shoes. We forget that.
And those who judge other people really don't have the knowledge to know what's right, wrong and cheap. Many people will stoop really low judging others not realizing how they can hurt someones self-esteem. One negative comment can really destroy a person who really isn't too confident in themselves.
Like you said, the people who are quite confident will never judge others. And I absolutely agree with the comment about people who lie always think others also lie because everyone is just like them and those who are good or have a positive thinking always expect others to have same kind of thinking. I know personally, many times I've wondered why can't people think like me (in positive way about others) but I realize that each individual is different. What might be positive for me, could be negative for another person. What seems like a 9 to me may seem like a 6 to someone else.
It's really hard to judge someone without really knowing them but we humans are just too quick to start judging others because we think that's a great quality in us. But in reality, at least to me..it's just really cheap.
December 24th, 2009 at 7:24 am
"Learn to accept yourself for who you are and what you look like. That's the most important thing!"
December 24th, 2009 at 7:24 am
"Learn to accept yourself for who you are and what you look like. That's the most important thing!"
Day in day out I am at battle with my own self.
I accept me but one negative word from someone and I come tumbling down.
It sort of is hard! very hard!
December 24th, 2009 at 8:13 am
yes am still alive
December 24th, 2009 at 8:27 am
I agree none of us are experts on right and wrong and like mentioned by Anam , what is right to me may be wrong for you. I just have one question for you Fahad ….How can judging someone give you any knowledge??? Once you judge someone we already ake up our mind about them, so where is that need to seek more and get to know them?The best we can do is to get to know ourselves well enough and in a positive manner and that helps us look at the world at large in a positive way.
December 24th, 2009 at 8:28 am
Agreed that change is the only constant in life
It helps to go with change and resist it the least when the change is for the better.
December 24th, 2009 at 8:29 am
Thank you for the wonderfully written comment Anam n I agree on this completely to your views.
December 24th, 2009 at 8:33 am
Accepting ourselves as we are definitely is hard specially when we are our worst critics. And like you said a wayward word from another and we crumble…I just feel its because we all seem to trust and rely more on another person's approval and opinion about us more than what we feel about ourselves. Apart from that any tough run in life , we tend to blame our decisions and thoughts , thus having a lil insecurity in believing in ourselves.
December 24th, 2009 at 8:34 am
Welcome from the dead Ubee
Good to see you back here.
December 24th, 2009 at 4:55 pm
As I said earlier, we change, so why a change and that further our knowledge about someone.:)
December 24th, 2009 at 5:01 pm
How or why???!
Human psychology and behavior. Observe and you'll know.
December 24th, 2009 at 7:59 pm
Hmm I do understand human psychology more so as I studied it but I still fail to undertstand how judging others can be knowledge enhancing….infact its more knowledge limiting as the mind is closed enough to try and fit people into the categories it makes.