Saanams Mind

“A competent and self-confident person is incapable of jealousy in anything. Jealousy is invariably a symptom of neurotic insecurity.” Robert A. Heinlein

Jealousy… is such a strange emotion, and often leads to a plethora of other emotions, such as rage, or downright hate.Jealousy is an enveloping emotion, and it consumes those who are unaware of its presence… Why am I talking of this emotion?I have often heard people say a bit of Jealousy is healthy for it shows the partner you care for them or just pushes you to do better than the other, but to me, there has been no positive repercussions of jealousy in anyway at all.

Many individuals are incapable of seeing the reason why a specific individual would remain loyal to the promises that they have made in regard to a relationship. They allow past wounds to remain open for far too long and it negatively effects any chance that a new relationship has to develop into a positive permanent connection. So in what way would Jealousy be positive here ?

When a person becomes jealous of the things that have yet to even occurred, the foundation of the relationship is no longer secure.Acting upon emotions that do not have factual foundations will always cause discord in a relationship.Jealousy is a control mechanism used to make people feel obligated to remain loyal.

Many people lie to themselves about the nature of their jealousy. They will make excuses for their behavior and then justify them in their own minds. Unfortunately this justification does not allow personal or emotional growth.Jealousy can consume and control a person if they allow it to be so.It takes commitment to combat jealousy in your your daily life and you must always try to keep it in balance. When we have jealousy its something that isn’t very pleasant and surely can ‘t make us pleasant. It will show our ugliness, meanness rear its ugly head.Jealousy can give you a very lonely existence if you don’t keep yourself under tight control.

“Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy — in fact, they’re almost incompatible; one emotion hardly leaves room for the other. Both at once can produce unbearable turmoil…” Robert Heinlein

“Ready or not, someday it will all come to an end. There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days. All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else. Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance. It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed. Your grudges, resentments, frustrations, and jealousies will finally disappear. So, too, your hopes, ambitions, plans, and to-do lists will expire. The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away. It won’t matter where you came from, or on what side of the tracks you lived, at the end. It won’t matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant — even your gender and skin colour will be irrelevant. So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured? What will matter is not what you bought, but what you built; not what you got, but what you gave. What will matter is not your success, but your significance. What will matter is not what you learned, but what you taught. What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example. What will matter is not your competence, but your character.What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you’re gone. What will matter is not your memories, but the memories that live in those who loved you. What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what.

Living a life that matters doesn’t happen by accident. It’s not a matter of circumstance but of choice.”

Is what we run after in this world really worth the tears we shed in our lives.Shouldn’t we focus more on who we are and what we give, how we treat others more importance than the money we earn, the petty issues we have of racism , differences between caste, color, creed, religion . Isn’t everything so so superficial??? Shouldn’t we focus more on being a good memory , a warm feeling in the hearts of the people we knew when we are gone. Can we set our Ego, possessiveness and greed aside and live with just the intent of doing as much good as we can to as many as we can? Can we strive on hurting less people and on just being good n make people feel good and leave a good memory as a mark on each one???

If only we looked a life in such a simple way….if only we focused on the larger good that each one stands to gain from , the little deeds that brightens hearts … wouldn’t the world be a much more beautiful place to live in????

Just a thought…

Jorey a song that talks of how matches are made in heaven . Yes I guess its predestined who you spend your life with as a life partner .

This one is for my hubby as we celebrate our 14 years together … time that just flew. We went through our ups n downs, hardships and smooth sailing , our highs n lows all together and as I look past I realize it just is getting better n better with time . Though our alliance was arranged with each passing year I feel I have grown to love, admire and respect more in him. As life brings across more people into my life , it just reinforces more in me about how much more I should be grateful for having a decent, respectable man in my life.

For you Vinod…Thank you for being in my life, for tolerating my ups n downs and being such a strong pillar of support for me With lotsa luv ….

I remember you singing this one for me n you have kept to the words so this one for you ….Jab koi baat bigar jaye

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY MUMMA

Sacrifice, devotion love and tears
A balm for pain, a prayer for our fears
Your energy , your heart, your mind and soul
You invested it all in me to make me whole.
A never ending love you gave me your all
A warm hug to comfort me when I had a fall
A teacher, a counselor, a nurse and a friend
You filled all these roles with a right blend.
Mom without you I just wouldn’t be me
You created then guided to set me free
Your love always showed me the right way
It made me the person that I am today.
A walking miracle thats what to me you are
Your love and faith in me has taken me afar
The thousand things you did to make me smile
The sacrifices you made to take me far a mile
I just thank you for being who you are
To me you always are my guiding star !

This one’s for you mama, for to me you truly are a huge inspiration. God give you good health, happiness and all things the best as you deserve all that and more. What you mean to me , I cannot put in words, but they truly dont make many like you..

Mumma This song is for you mumma.LOVE YOU N MAY GOD ALWAYS KEEP YOU SMILING AND IN GOOD HEALTH.

Tere dil ka mere dil se

oh dil se dil ka rishta juda..pal do pal mein mitta nahi..bandhan dilo ka tutta nahi
(tere dil ka mere dil se rishta purana hainin aankho se har aansu
mujhko churana hain mujhko churana hain mujhko churana hain )
tere dil ka mere dil se rishta purana hain

teri bechaini ka teri tanhai ka ehsaas hain mujhko sun
main jo saath tere hu phir tujhe hain kaisa gam
dard baat lenge ham sun in palko mein khushiyo ka sapna sajana hain
tere dil ka mere dil se rishta purana hain

Something about this song sure touches something deep within me . Amazing lyrics touchy n reminds me of those relationships i have with a few special people…some i cant explain.

Reading an article on thoughts and how they control everything about your life…I was wondering if there some way we could keep an control on what n how we think. Maybe as the article suggests we should think of thoughts as people. Some are good, some bad , some are inspiring, some draining. The way we would not entertain a bad person into our homes , same way a bad thought should not be welcome in the temple of the body, the sacred mind.. We need to segregate what thoughts are good and what is not.

The most powerful thing we have are our thoughts and at the conscious level thoughts are what we use the least. If we put our thoughts in real life we can create a lot and you will find your life to be a reflection of your thoughts …so the more you think positive and powerful, the more your life will veer the positive way. When repeatedly a thought comes into your mind it becomes a belief for many thoughts translates into feelings and feelings become a reality.If you change the thought, you change the feelings and the experience. You break the cycle by changing your thoughts. You set into motion another experience.

If we really look at life …we have been gifted with thinking that maybe most animals have not been given. We have a gift of choosing to think and make a life for ourselves the way we choose to.In doing so, we create in our lives the experiences we choose to have and in our selves the attributes that we wish to possess. A key to using our thoughts in a powerful way is to just lock your thought on to something and focus completely on it and repeatedly tell yourself about it. That makes the thought strong enough to translate into a feeling. The minute you keep changing your mind, you dilute the thought and that makes it lose its power.

Thoughts that rule your mind are of two kinds conscious and the subconscious . All unconscious thoughts are controlled by the external circumstances , they make a repeated thought that can become a belief. It gets so ingrained in your mind that it becomes an unconscious part of you.It will reflect in your life completely Unconscious thoughts are also the thoughts running through your mind that you are unconscious of because you have not taken the time to be aware of what is going through your mind.

Conscious thoughts are the ones that we decide to make our belief. We tell our self this is how it should be and go through all those thoughts that run through the mind.As you become more conscious of the thoughts you have, you will then become more aware of the other thoughts and beliefs all around you and therefore choose in a conscious way what you will allow to enter your mind and become your beliefs. It is these conscious thoughts that you focus on that will become that which you see and experience in your life.

Our thoughts are ours to shape and hold. Our mind is the powerful generator of our thoughts…. so the key to powerful thoughts and a powerful mind would be to control most of our conscious thoughts to be positive ones and ingrain them in us in such a way that they unconsciously take over n shape our lives.