Saanams Mind

While surfing through the channels, I stopped on a Pakistani channel ARY that has the morning show – Good Morning Pakistan. Usually I don’t get the time to watch it daily but I do try to watch it when I can. Today’s show is dedicated to Mothers. A mother whose child was taken away from her husband and in-laws because all her children so far had been girls and not boys. The third child, the little girl of six days was sold by her father and the mother was kicked out of the house. Hearing this mother’s story and her appeal to the people who ‘bought’ her to let her see her child just once, to return her child to her. Being the sentimental person that I am, crying my eyes out and angry at myself for being part of a world where such people exist. Is this really the world I live in where a daughter is not wanted?

Daughters are not a burden, rather they are a blessing.  Daughters are without doubt a great blessing from Allah. They are a means of salvation and a path to Jannah for their parents. The Holy Prophet has stated that when a boy is born, then he brings one Noor (light) and when a girl is born, then she brings two Noors. It has been narrated in a Hadith that the Holy Prophet has stated that if parents are kind and generous towards their daughters, then they will be so close to the Holy Prophet in Jannah, like one finger is to the next. He also stated that the person who is faced with hardship due to his daughters, and is patient, then his daughters will be a Purdah (curtain) between him and Hell. How can we think that a son is needed to carry on the family? I feel sad for the men and families who don’t consider a women a mother until and unless she she bores them a son. I pity them. A mother is a mother regardless of what the sex of the child is.

I’m a daughter too. It breaks my heart to think that my father may not want me because I’m a female. Would I have been sold too? Would I have been unwanted? Who are these humans to judge if I’m worthy of this world or not?

Then there are those unfortunate people who have their parents, their mothers with them but they don’t value them. Paradise lies at the feet of your mother – that’s what Islam teaches me. No mother will ever want to harm her child. Our fathers can give us good education, but only our mother can give us unconditional love and never ask for anything in return. Only she can stay up all night to make sure we sleep a peacefully at night. Only she will go hungry for days to make sure her children have been fed. Only she will wear old ripped clothes to make sure her children have been given new clothes. Only she will continue to smile through her sorrows to make sure her children never see her pain. Only she will continue to pray for her children even if they are disrespectful towards her. Only she will defend her children to the world even when she knows her child is wrong. Only she will fight the world for her childrens’ rights. Only she will hear what her child’s heart is wanting to say. Only she will read her child’s eyes with one look. Only she will see the pain that none in the world will ever see. Only she will protect her child from any harm that may come. Only her prayers will take the child above and beyond anything in the world!

I love my mother as the trees love water and sunshine – she helps me grow, prosper, and reach great heights.  ~Terri Guillemets

It absolutely saddens me to think that I’m part of the world where children do not value their parents and then the parents who do not value their children either due to their sex or because of any disability. I pity those men who blame the women for such ‘issues’ of their children. I pray that God shows you the right path and makes you realize what sins you are committing by not accepting your children. YOUR children!

I’m blessed to have parents who have been my strength through every step of the way in my life. I’m blessed to have best friends who love me, care for me and treat me as their child. I’m lucky to have not one but two mothers in my life [no, my father doesn't have two wives! I just have two mothers!].  I have always believed and said that I’m proud to have a person in my life who in-spite of their own issues always listen to my problems, advises me, mothers me, loves me, yells at me, cries with me and laughs with me. Shares my every sorrow and happiness as her own. She gives me hope when I have no hope left within me. She forgives me each time for hurting her. That’s what a mother does. She is my mother and I’m proud to have her in my life because not every person so lucky to have someone so beautiful inside and out in their lives. She inspires me every moment – is the reason for my smile and is the reason for my such positive outlook on life.

Love you moms. Blessed to have you both in my life and blessed to call you my mom. Forever & Always.

My mom is a never ending song in my heart of comfort, happiness, and being.  I may sometimes forget the words but I always remember the tune.  ~Graycie Harmon

A daughter is a mother’s gender partner, her closest ally in the family confederacy, an extension of her self.  And mothers are their daughters’ role model, their biological and emotional road map, the arbiter of all their relationships.  ~Victoria Secunda

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